If friendship is intended to be symmetrical (i.e. it is not possible for `A` to be friends with `B` but not vice-versa) then I would just store the one way relationship with a check constraint ensuring that each relationship can only be represented one way. Also I would ditch the surrogate id and have a composite PK instead (and possibly a composite unique index also on the reversed columns). CREATE TABLE Friends ( UserID1 INT NOT NULL REFERENCES Users(UserID), UserID2 INT NOT NULL REFERENCES Users(UserID), CONSTRAINT CheckOneWay CHECK (UserID1 < UserID2), CONSTRAINT PK_Friends_UserID1_UserID2 PRIMARY KEY (UserID1, UserID2), CONSTRAINT PK_Friends_UserID2_UserID1 UNIQUE (UserID2, UserID1), ) You don't say the queries that this makes difficult but you can always create a View CREATE VIEW Foo AS SELECT UserID1,UserID2 FROM Friends UNION ALL SELECT UserID2,UserID1 FROM Friends