The 4th way is to use `EXCEPT` (aka `MINUS`) where the RDBMS supports it.  
This should give the same execution plan as `NOT EXISTS`

    DECLARE @NoDateWanted date = '20110922';

    SELECT id, @NoDateWanted AS tarih
    FROM kimlik
    EXCEPT
    SELECT id, @NoDateWanted 
    FROM siparis
    WHERE tarih = @NoDateWanted;

You'll have to add the date filter in as a constant.  
When you check for "no rows" there is no row to pull the data from of course.